Should I be worried??  To worry or not to worry, if that is the question, then I would say don’t bother.

What’s the point?

We all worry from time to time.  Can anyone think of a time when worrying has helped the situation in any way?  Worrying just takes up energy, and distracts us from what we should be focused on.  Speaking of focus, I don’t know if I can live with the blurriness of this picture.  The intention is to show visually what happens when we lose focus on what is important to us, and within our ability to control.  Perhaps this picture is too effective, because it is giving me the same headache I get when I am out of alignment with my values in life, and my priorities go out of focus!

Let’s ask better questions

What is the posture we want to hold to the things in our lives that are not under are control?  What is the work we are willing to do in the areas of our lives that are out of control?  What are we going to do with the energy that we could have spent on worry?



the fine print:  The artist who created this sign is not
 someone that I know.  My purpose here is to engage with
 my own curiosity as an observer.  In no way am I 
attempting to act as an art critic, or to guess at the
 artists intent.



What if we could have a meaningful and positive engagement with any of the questions our culture is asking?  For a long time, I have maintained that it isn’t possible to do so inside of a two party system.  What if I was wrong?  What would meaningful engagement look like?

If you look at the arguments being waged now inside a two party system; science vs. religion, red vs. blue, abortion vs gun control, all lives vs black lives, first amendment vs 2nd amendment…  If your position is one of the sides of these unhelpful arguments, I invite you to do better. What that exactly looks like, is a work the collective creativity to envision a positive way forward.

Because progress is not being made. You are not changing the mind of the “other” side. You are not looking at the world as it is, but from inside of a set of stories that are proving themselves to be increasingly unhelpful.

Wouldn’t you rather be a part of the solution?  What is the solution?  Well (and when I say we, I mean humanity) haven’t thought of it yet.  Even in Canada, we sometimes forget that we are not part of that two party world, and we try to take the teeth out of our thoughts and make them small enough to shoehorn into an uncomfortable crouch.

The best I have been able to do so far, is to avoid arguments with only two “sides.” For their lack of imagination, and unwillingness to see the world around them. And while I want to continue doing this, I want to do more. I want to be part of the solution. Life isn’t a true of false test. I want to see the way forward enough that we can invite others to join us.

Step outside of the argument!  Life isn’t multiple choice.  What would it look like if we could be better than that?

What if we could??

WHAT’S NEXT?? Denise



“I do my best thinking in nature, I am very drawn to water, this is a perfect place to do this kind of self work. It is very calming.”  Denise Doerksen

Denise, it was special to see the water working its calming magic on you!   Thanks for all the enthusiasm you brought to our trip.  😀  It thrills me to see the new found energy you are bringing to your life and business as an entrepreneur!  Keep pressing into your declaration.  I can’t wait to sail with you in the Caribbean, or the South Pacific!!

“It is a life changing experience!  …All my friends, you HAVE to do this!  You’ve gotta get yourself here!” … I’ll definitely be signing up for one of the tropical destinations!”  Denise Doerksen



What are you still curious about?  Is your curiosity growing?  When we were children, our curiosity was unlimited.  But for many of us, we learned to ask less questions.  We lost the ability to fall easily into wonder.  What if we were intentional about possibility??

It’s about being open to possibility, without attachment to a particular outcome….  It’s about letting our guards down and welcoming in the unknown, weaving intricate webs and connecting and everyone we encounter.”  Sue Abuelsamid

What intrigues me most about Sue is her Curiosity Project.  Do you get bored of talking about the same old thing all the time?  How often do you find yourself wondering how to start a more engaging conversation with someone?  What Sue has done, is created a list of questions to open up meaningful conversations.  We had coffee recently in an upscale Vancouver neighborhood, and she gave me the  gift of deeper conversation openers on pocket cards.  This is the Curiosity Project. So when you see me next, ask me about the Curiosity Project.  I can’t wait to see what card we get!!

“We could be curious, because we were unrestrained: we had stars above us and trees around us and anything was possible.”  Sue Abuelsamid